The 12 Universal Laws

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration” -Nikola Tesla

I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, but have you heard of the Law of Correspondence or the Law of Compensation? There are actually a total of 12 Universal laws that intrinsically all work together and if applied, can help you navigate through both easily and effortlessly. These 12 laws are governed by the Universe in order to create balance and harmony within nature. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in them or not, they will always be there. The Universe exists in perfect harmony with each and every one of these laws so learning and understanding them better will give you the power to influence your life in positive ways. Master these 12 universal laws and you can completely change your life from the inside out!

law of divine oneness

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Everything is connected

The first and most foundational law of the universe is the Law of Divine Oneness, which highlights the interconnectedness of all things. It says that beyond our senses, every thought, action, and event is in some way connected to anything and everything. Every person, place, animal, thought pattern, action, event, and tree are all connected. The illusion that we are separate is a fallacy that has led mankind away from our true spiritual essence and away from the source of which we came from and that makes up the divine matrix we call the universe. We are all one with the Universe from which we are created. Therefore all actions and choices we make in our lives affect everything and everyone around us. We are all created from divine source, with this in mind, we are all part of the same. By knowing that we are all connected we give ourselves the power of empathy for ourselves and others which has the capacity to change the world. Through heart centered living, we ultimately will become the change that we seek

law of vibration

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Everything has a unique vibrational frequency

Every single thing in the entire Universe is energy and has a unique vibrational frequency. We are always in constant motion, vibrating at a specific frequency which is heavily influenced by our thoughts and emotions. The Law of Vibration states that everything in the Universe carries a vibration that is unique to itself and carries constant energy with it. In turn, high vibrating particles are attracted to other high vibrating particles while lower vibrating particles are attracted to lower vibrating particles. This is where the phrase “like attracts like” comes from. We attract our tribe of fellow souls in this manner.  “your vibe attracts tribe.” or “birds of a feather flock together.”  Your friends will give you a really good snapshot of what your vibratory frequency is. We are what we “emit” or put out into the world so if you want to change anything in your life, you simply need to alter your frequency and by doing so, your will attract a brand new vibration.

How to instantly change and raise your vibration:

• Become aware of your thoughts, choices, and actions

• Create a gratitude list or recall at least 5 things you are grateful for

• Drink more water

• Eat more organic, raw, living fruits and vegetables

• Meditation and relaxation techniques

• Move your body by exercising or going for a walk

• Stand

Dr. David Hawkins, a psychiatrist, who experienced several life-altering events throughout his life, believes that every word, every thought, and every intention creates what is called a morphogenetic field, or attractor field.

Following each personal experience, he noticed a change in his state of consciousness from an ego-based/ mind focus to a completely overwhelming state of overpowering bliss.

He decided that he must pursue the reason behind all these changes so he created a way to measure all these energy fields. This process tests the sound, light, and electromagnetic waves coming off of the morphogenetic field of the human heart when someone is thinking, emoting, or creating. 

In his book, Power Vs. Force, Hawkins introduced a scale of expanding levels of consciousness that he calibrated using the methods of muscle testing and kinesiology. 

He presents a vibration scale which consists of a hierarchy of levels of human consciousness on a scale of 1 to 1000, where 1 is simply being alive and 1000 is an advanced state of enlightenment.

law of attraction

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What is like unto itself is drawn

The Law of Attraction is undoubtedly the most popular and talked about universal law which people like to use for manifestation. It was made famous from the best selling book, The Secret. It states that like attracts like and most importantly, you get what you focus on. Not only that, but you have to believe what you're seeking is possible to obtain. It is similar to the law of vibration in this way; it's important to learn how to vibrate at a level that attracts what you're seeking. What we think and feel deep inside of ourselves is reflected back to us in our physical world.  Oftentimes I am sure you have heard, what we think we become when in reality, what we believe we become.  Believe you have an abundant life, and so shall it be.  No matter how many times you say, “I have an abundant life” if you don’t believe it in the deepest recesses of your soul it will not present itself in your physical reality. When we focus on what we want versus what we don't want, it will show up in our life.

law of correspondence

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As above, so below

This Law of Correspondence means that our outside world is nothing more than a reflection of our inside world. As above, so below. As within, so without. This principle says that our current reality is simply a mirror of what is going on inside us. This Universal law states that your outer world or life experience is a direct reflection of your inner world: Your thoughts, feelings and beliefs. If you spend your days thinking angry, negative thoughts, your life experience will be filled with anger and negativity. If you wish to change the outside, change the inside. Life is not happening to you, it’s happening for you.

Kaiser's mantra for this law? It's happening for you, not to you. "If our life is chaotic and fearful," she says, "it's because there is chaos and fear within. If our life seems calm and grounded, it is because we feel peace within." In any troubling situation, she suggests asking what the situation can show you about yourself, and what requires healing within.

This law is directly related to the Law of Universal Oneness.  Patterns repeat themselves throughout the Universe and the prominent patterns repeat themselves on smaller patterns.  The key is to recognize these patterns in our own lives so that we can take action either towards continuing with the positive patterns or changing the patterns that no longer serve us.

law of inspired action

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Manifestation requires aligned action

Closely related to the law of attraction, the law of inspired action is all about taking those real, actionable steps to invite what we want into our lives. Often the inspiration comes from within. "Inspired action is that gentle, internal nudge," Kumar says. "It's not always a plan of action."

She adds that practicing this law is all about slowing down, getting quiet, and creating space for internal guidance. When we let go of our need to arrange and control how things will work out and are instead open to all possibilities, it makes room for new ways of achieving our goals that we might not have considered otherwise.

This is a very important law and one that is most often not utilized which prevents the manifestation of the Law of Attraction.  In order for our intentions to manifest we must take action towards making those intentions a reality in our physical world.  Your actions must match your intentions and when your actions and intentions are aligned the possibility for instant manifestation arises.  In short, we must take action towards making our dreams come true, they are not just going to magically arrive on our doorstep without some effort on our part.  We must take the first step and then the Universe acts in accordance with our actions.  We take a step and the Universe responds.  We stand still and the Universe stands still with us.  Through inspired action we make our dreams a reality.

law of cause and effect

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Every action has a consequence

Often referred to the Law of Karma, the Law of Cause and Effect simply states that whatever you put out into the world will return to you. Zig Ziglar said it best, “You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequences of your choice.” This is a necessary law because it allows us to see how our choices and actions affect many things that will always come back to us, whether good or bad. No matter what we do to another person, be it a loving gesture or one that causes pain, that action will return to us in some manner at some point in our life.  This law is directly aligned with the Law of Universal Oneness. We are all connected, therefore anything and everything we do to another person we are actually doing unto ourselves. Like the boomerang or ripple effect, what goes around comes around. What you put out into the world and how you treat others will eventually come back to you which is why you want to treat others how you want to be treated.

LAW OF COMPENSATION

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We are rewarded for the right action

The Law of Compensation relates closely to the Law of Correspondence. "You reap what you sow" is the main take-away, with the law stating your efforts will always come back to you positively. If you are seeking something, you must contribute in some way toward your goal.

This law states that what you get back what you give to others, as you give, so shall you receive. If you want to receive good things and be surrounded by good energy, be that example.

To work with this law in a manner that attracts (or compensates for) love and support, for example, Kaiser suggests asking yourself, "Where am I being called to serve and support others today?" 

This law is very similar in that it states that what you put out into the world will return to you however the Law of Compensation goes a step further because it states that whatever is in your heart is what is returned to you.  Words are powerful but our feelings and belief structures are actually what powers our ability to manifest our thoughts into existence.  Since this Universe is made up of energy this law confirms that whatever our energy is will be compensated with like energy.  For instance, if you do a good deed for someone but do so with resentment or in a negative manner what will actually be returned is the resentment and anger.  If you hold love in your heart when you do these deeds, then love will be returned as compensation.

law of perpetual transmutation of energy

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Energy is always moving and always changing

This law illustrates that everything in the Universe is constantly changing. Change is the only constant.  The beautiful part of this law is the realization that no matter where you are in your life you have the ability and capacity to change it into exactly the life you want it to be.

Everyone has the power to change the conditions of their lives. Energy is constantly moving and all energy will eventually manifest in the physical. High vibrations consume and transform lower ones, and we can change any negativity that exists within our life experience by applying the Universal laws.

This law states that on an energetic level, everything in the universe is constantly evolving or fluctuating. Every action is preceded by a thought, with thoughts themselves having the power to eventually manifest in our physical reality.

Ever been around a negative person and felt your own positivity depleting? That's one example—but it can also work the other way around: Higher frequencies transmute lower ones when applied with intention. Knowing this, we can actively seek to uplift negative energy around us with our thoughts and actions.

law of relativity

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It’s all relative

This law states that nothing is what it is until you relate it to something. Point of view is determined by the observer is relating to. the nature, value, or quality of something can only be measured in the relation to another object. The Universe is simply a blank canvas that projects our thoughts and beliefs back to us. Our mind is like a movie projector and our thoughts are like the film that is fed through the projector. Whatever we think is projected onto the blank canvas of the Universe and is shown back to us like the movie of our life. If your thoughts are negative and filled with strife—a horror movie of sorts—this is what the Universe will reflect on its blank screen. If your thoughts are of love, compassion and kindness then this is the movie that will be reflected back to us. Allow the movie of your life to be a movie you would be proud to show the world.  Make it a masterpiece!

In fact, everything in our life just is until we compare it to something. Nothing in life has any meaning, except for the meaning that we give it. It is all in how you look at your situation and what thoughts and perspective you choose to think about the situation with. When you focus on good thoughts and energies, more good things will come to you. Likewise, if you focus on how bad your situation is, you will attract more bad. You can always compare your life situation to someones else, and it will look better or worse depending on your view point and how you look at it.  If you compare your situation to someones whose is worse yours will look better. No matter the situation at hand, 'There is always someone worse off and there is always someone better'. 

In life we are all faced with challenges to overcome. This law teaches us to give our problems their proper perspective. No matter how bad we perceive our situation to be, there is always someone who is in a worse position. It’s all relative.

This law suggests that we are inclined to compare things in our world, but in reality, everything is neutral. Relativism exists in all things, and in the end, meaning comes down to our perspective and perception.

In life we are all faced with challenges to overcome. This law teaches us to give our problems their proper perspective. No matter how bad we perceive our situation to be, there is always someone who is in a worse position. It’s all relative.

law of polarity

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There are two sides to everything

Everything in the Universe exists with its equal and opposite. In physics, its called Newton's 3rd law. In ancient Chinese philosophy, it's called yin and yang. In the practical world it's male and female, hot and cold, and in the universe it's matter and anti-matter. Happiness must have sadness, hot must have cold, what goes up must come down, and day must have night. When it comes to politics, even the right wing and left wing are still part of the same bird. Without each of these dualities, we would not be able to discern the polarity of each and each is necessary so that we can once again remember that we are One with the Universe.  We must experience opposites in order to validate our choices on this plane.  Every opposite has value as a teaching construct that allows us the opportunity to create the life we desire.  If the Universe were to choose for us it would eradicate our freewill and it is through freewill that we go on a journey to remember that we are all connected.  We are given the choice of love or hate in order to realize the truth of the first Universal Law, the Law of Universal Oneness.

This law says that everything in life has an opposite; good and evil, love and fear, warmth and cold. The key is understanding these are all two sides of the same coin.

Kaiser works with this law through the mantra All contrast brings more clarity. If you're facing a difficult situation like a breakup or a health challenge, for example, tune into what the opposite looks like, which can reveal a new perspective or lesson.

The Law of Polarity states that within all things lies its exact opposite. Therefore, we have the capacity to transform any negative into a positive, because within the negative, the positive lies.

law of gender

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Manifestation requires a balance of energies

Everything in the Universe is comprised of both male and female energies. It is a set of cosmic duality. Two opposing and complementing principles or cosmic energies that can be observed in nature. Many people may think that these are opposing forces when in reality they are complimentary forces that cannot exist without one another.  When the male and female energy combine together to make one unit of energy the yogis call this the highest form of yoga.  A Divine Union is born that makes the pair greater than the sum of the parts.  We see this in “power couples” who are stronger as a unit than they would be individually.  When complimentary energies unite the union has the power the change the world.

And lastly, the law of gender has to do with the masculine and feminine energy that exists in all things. Kaiser notes that much of our society has historically operated from a masculine, "hustle and do" mentality, which doesn't allow for much room to just be. Achieving your own balance between masculine and feminine energies can help you live more authentically.

And there you have it: the 12 universal laws. Before you get too overwhelmed, integrating them into your life is more about understanding and conceptualizing them in a way that makes sense to you. Kumar notes it doesn't have to be so analytical; "Understand the concept and keep it on the back burner in your mind," she says, to learn how to work with them in day-to-day scenarios. Now that you've been introduced to these laws, chances are they'll come up in your life again and again.

This law states that within all things there are both masculine and feminine qualities, yin and yang. In order to achieve balance both forces must be present. It is this law that governs what we know as creation. It is masculine which plants the seed (or creates a goal), and the feminine that nurtures it to grow and manifest.

law of rhythm

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Nothing is permanent

Everything has a rhythm and flow to it and we are all a part of it. The Universe has its own set of rhythms, cycles and stages. Often as humans we struggle to accept this and instead attempt to manipulate and control the world to our liking. The cycle of life and death are forever linked. The seasons change, the moon waxes and wanes, and humans go through different developmental stages in our own lives. These are the natural cycles of the Universe and we cannot change them. A once beautiful rose eventually withers and wilts only to return to dust. Understanding and acknowledging these natural cycles allows us to let go a little and not become too attached to any specific state or try to control a specific outcome. Understanding the law of rhythm releases any attachments to the way we want them to be and helps us to trust that there is a divine order to all things.

These 12 Universal Laws will always be here for you at your disposal and give you the tools to help improve your life. Whether you believe they are real does not matter. They will continue to exist despite what others think and believe. You can try to defy these laws all you want yet they will still hold true. They are a gift given to us from the Universe to master so we can master our own life!

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“We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of an average star but we can understand the Universe. That makes us something very special.”

— Stephen Hawking

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Lessons on Love

IT TAKES TWO to make a thing go right

This message is for anyone who is looking for love, already in a relationship, or newly single after a difficult breakup. Those who may feel frustrated in dating, struggling to make a relationship work, or repairing a broken heart. With the rise of social media along with being attached to our digital devices, it doesn’t make it any any of this easier. Isn’t it interesting how we now have greater access to each other yet we are much more disconnected when it comes to communication and understanding one another? We judge others from their profile photos, swipe right, overvalue and idealize, fall in love with words, trigger unhealthy attachment styles, then run away and ghost each other instead of having open and honest communication about how we truly feel. I miss the days of dating without social media. It’s wonderful to connect with others from all over the world, but far too often, people are taken for granted due to the fear of missing out on something better. With that said, below are some helpful tips that can help you navigate dating and relationships in the digital world.

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“Love people, not things; use things, not people.”

— Spencer W. Kimball

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Love has taught me so much about myself, especially loving relationships that didn’t work out and most difficultly, unrequited love. I’ve been in healthy long-term relationships that have lasted many years as well as toxic “situationships” where I learned hard but important lessons. I’ve made plenty of mistakes and have even stopped dating altogether to do some inner soul work and emotional healing. After putting in this work, I feel so much gratitude for everything, including those who have hurt me. The good and bad experiences have all shaped me into the woman that I have become and continue to evolve into.

Heal yourself first

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If you are hurting or still emotionally tied to someone else, then you probably shouldn’t be dating. It may not be easy to be alone, but if you’re not able to release the past and appreciate your own company, how can you be sure that you’re choosing someone out of love and not loneliness? Healing requires solitude. This is abstaining from flirtation, dating, sex, or any distraction that takes you away from truly healing yourself. Take the time to become intimate with yourself first before getting into any kind of relationship. Healing can take anywhere between a few months to a couple of years. However long it takes. Weak-minded individuals fear alone time. Strong-minded people embrace solitude and transmute it into a positive experience. If you don’t take the time to properly heal and get to know yourself, then another person or a relationship will only distract you from the work you need to complete to grow and evolve into the person you want to become. The longer you wait to do this work, the harder it will be. Some people keep changing partners to avoid changing and improving themselves. Don’t become this person. It will only make things difficult for both you and your potential partner. Two halves don’t make a whole. Two whole people who come together can create a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Learn how to heal from one person without needing another.

cultivate love from within

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Jack Kornfield said, “Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.” Think about it, if you don't love yourself properly, how can you properly love another human being? The most important relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. It’s wonderful to selflessly serve others, but when it comes at the expense of self-care or true happiness, then the work may be incomplete. We can achieve a peaceful world when each and every one of us cultivates true compassion within our own hearts.

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“The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you will have in your life.”

— Diane Von Furstenberg

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How to properly love yourself:

• Stop criticizing yourself. You are doing the best you can, self criticism doesn't help. You can find plenty of people out in the world to criticize you, don't be one of them.

• Forgive yourself and let the past go. Holding on to it only keeps you stuck.

• Connect with your inner child. Parent, support, and care for yourself.

• Stop scaring yourself. Choose more positive, peaceful, hopeful, and optimistic thoughts.

• Accept yourself now. Love your negatives and find new positive ways to fulfill those needs.

• Be mindful of your thoughts.

• Let go of expectations and a perfectionist mindset.

• Work with a therapist or coach.

• Don't wait until you have the perfect body, job, or partner, love yourself now as best as you possibly can, like your life depended on it, because it does!

learn your attachment style

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Humans are wired for attachment. Since the day we were born and started crying for the loving touch of our mothers. As we grow up, we learn how to form bonds with other people, and our early experiences with intimate relationships heavily impact how we approach attachment in the future. Our attachment style starts with how our parents related to us, then we are shaped further by other experiences with friends, teachers, and the first romantic relationships we have. The four attachment styles are:

• Secure – Autonomous. Low on avoidance and low on anxiety. These people are comfortable with intimacy and not worried about rejection or preoccupied with the relationship. It is easy for them to get close with others, and they are comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. They don’t worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to them.

• Avoidant – Dismissing. High on avoidance and low on anxiety. These people are uncomfortable with closeness and primarily values independence and freedom. They are usually not worried about partner’s availability. They are uncomfortable getting close with others. They find it difficult to trust and depend on others and prefer that others do not depend on them. It is very important that that they feel independent and self-sufficient. Their partner typically wants them to be more intimate than they are comfortable being.

• Anxious – Preoccupied. Low on avoidance and high on anxiety. These people crave closeness and intimacy with others and are very insecure about their relationship. They want to be extremely emotionally close with others, but others are reluctant to get as close as they would like. They often worry that their partner doesn’t love or value them and will abandon them. Their inordinate need for closeness tends to scare people away.

• Disorganized (both Anxious and Avoidant) – Unresolved. High on avoidance and high on anxiety. These people are uncomfortable with intimacy and worried about partner’s commitment and love. They are uncomfortable getting close to others and find it difficult to trust and depend on them. They worry I they will get hurt if they get close to their partner.

You can learn more about attachment styles in relationships from the following books below.

Attached

Wired for Love

Attachment in Psychology

Attachment Disturbances

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“If you do not address your childhood traumas, your romantic relationships will. ”

— Unknown

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you are worthy

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Believe it. It’s true. We all are worthy and deserving of true love. If you don’t believe this, then how can it show up in your life? Many of us lack this fundamental belief due to unresolved emotional trauma (typically stemming from childhood) which is why it is crucial that we heal ourselves as best as we can prior to dating or getting into a relationship with another person. Most importantly before bringing a child into this world. Self-worth is determined from within and your worth has absolutely no bearing on someone else’s actions including whether they love you or not.

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“It’s not about finding love, you are love itself.”

— Jennifer Joy Patrishkoff

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True love is a mutual ecstasy that two partners share who feel happy, safe, respected, and deeply connected, not just on a physical level but a soul level as well. It’s hard to explain what true love is because it can only be felt with the heart. Love is actually a feeling or vibration and experiencing this can certainly change your life. If what you are experiencing is pain, suffering, and fear, then this is not in fact, true love.

true love comes from understanding

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Four elements of true love within Buddhism:

• Loving-kindness (maitri) – The desire to offer happiness.

• Compassion (karuna) – The desire to remove suffering from another person.

• Joy (mudita) – The desire to bring joy to the people around you.

• Equanimity (upeksha) – The desire to accept everything and not to discriminate.

True love is not found, it’s built over time through a healthy practice of these four elements which can bring lifelong happiness to each partner. If you cannot offer happiness to another, if you cannot be compassionate or bring joy to another, and accept them as they are without wanting to change them, then you will not be able to love another person properly.

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“In true love, you attain freedom.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

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Your worth is not up for negotiation. You deserve to find true love so believe that it is possible for you otherwise you will end up attracting someone who doesn’t love you, nonetheless, understand how to love. If you feel as if you are not worthy enough for true love, then you will always end up accepting far less than you deserve.

choose wisely

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Your life is a product of the choices that you make. To find the right partner, you need to choose the right partner, not only who aligns with your values and goals, but who has healthy attributes such as:

• Respect: Someone who deeply admires and appreciates who you are.

• Trust: Someone who takes full responsibility for their life, who is reliable, consistent, has integrity, and aligns their words with their actions.

• Communication: Someone who openly communicates and listens with intent.

• Unconditional love: Someone who gives love without condition or expecting anything in return.

• Maturity: Someone with emotional sensitivity and who has manners in all situations (especially when upset or inconvenienced).

• Emotional intelligence: Someone who has the capacity to be aware of, control, and express their emotions. They handle interpersonal relationships both judiciously and empathetically.

• Self-Confidence: Someone who trusts in their own abilities, qualities, and judgment.

• Independence: Someone who has their own life, hobbies, and interests outside of the relationship and who respects your own space.

• Honesty: Someone who tells the truth and doesn’t hide things, even if it may upset you or someone else.

Relationship standards are the minimum requirements that you need from someone to be happy and fulfilled within a relationship. The most dangerous time in dating is the moment you decide that you like someone because that’s when you may start to justify their behavior or compromise your own standards just to keep them around. A lot of the people who have not clearly defined their standards tend to accept whatever comes their way which can be the quickest way to become disappointed. Stay strong and hold yourself accountable to what you say that you want in life and out of a partner. Find the courage to wait for what you deserve. Don’t raise your expectations of others, raise your standards so you make the right choice.

get comfortable with rejection

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Rejection happens to everyone, and often. If someone can walk away from you, then let them. I know this feeling can be hard to accept but you must always remain strong and hopeful. Consider the Law of Compensation: What you reap, you shall sow. You will never be good enough for the wrong person. Even if you “thought” you were a great match, the other person failed to notice what you have to offer. The right person is always the person who chooses you, not just the person who has all of the great qualities that you like. If the people you are attracting and meeting somehow do not resonate with your personal goals or desires, then you will be rejected every time by default. Remember that this has absolutely nothing to do with you personally because people all have different preferences and may want different things than you do. There’s no possible way that we can be a match with every single person in this world so please do not let any form of rejection shake your self-worth.

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“An honest rejection is better than a false promise.”

— Jennifer Joy Patrishkoff

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Rejection has more to do with the person doing the rejecting than the person who is being rejected. If you feel that you are a good person and gave it your all, then the experience would not be a loss but a gain. It’s a numbers game too. Sometimes you need to come across 20 people to say no before you can get that 1 person to say maybe, and about 10 maybes until you get that one definitive, YES. The goal in dating isn’t to to find as many people who will want you, it’s about finding the right one who also wants you too.

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“When it comes to dating, relationships, and love, it should either be a hell yes or a hell no!”

— Raw Vegan Ginger

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Rejection can come out of the blue when you least expect it too. We live in a time where people get a constant supply of new prospective matches and this doesn’t exclude you. You could be the juiciest, sweetest, most delicious mango in the world and there will always be someone out there who doesn’t like mangoes. People can only meet you based on their own consciousness and understanding. Just because someone cannot meet you on your level does not mean that they are rejecting you. You may be redirected to an even better match that is more suited for you with amazing qualities that you may haven’t even thought of yet. Shift your perspective. If you are experiencing rejection right now, just keep your chin up and never stop believing in true love. Attracting what you want always starts with belief, so never forget your true worth despite any form of rejection.

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“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better. ”

— Steve Maraboli

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action over words

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If you’re going to judge someone, judge them according to their actions, not their words. Words are simply vibrations of sound emitted into the air. Words will tell you what a person wants, but actions show you who they really are. People love to talk about what they’re going to do, especially in the beginning stage of a relationship, so take note and see how many times they actually follow through. If they come up empty handed with many broken promises, then you will know what kind of person you’re dealing with. People who are inconsistent (hot or cold) are simply showing you their level of emotional intelligence. For example, people who will keep you around and only give you a small amount of attention, also known as “breadcrumbs”, then put you back on the shelf while they continue to shop the market to see if they can find something better. If they can’t find something better, they usually come back around to check and see if you still care about them anytime they need love. Would you want to be someone’s second choice? Someone who is all talk and never backs up their actions with their words? I certainly would not. This is why the best apology is not words, but changed behavior.

how people treat you is how they feel about you

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People won’t always tell you how they feel about you, but they will certainly show you how they feel with their actions. If someone wants you in their life, then they will never leave you second guessing or wondering how they feel inside. Please take any mixed signals or inconsistency as a “no”, even if your feelings for them are strong. A lot of us get into the habit of letting our feelings take over reality. I’ve struggled with this for many years. People can invoke feelings of love without actually loving you causing you to create a fantasy or idealization about them. If a person is truly interested in you and loves you, then they will put in the effort, show up, and make time for you. When you meet the right person. you will both be confident and calm about the relationship, not constantly worried or uncertain. The right kind of love will never put you through any emotional highs and lows as we see in movies or romance novels.

expectations always lead to disappointment

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William Shakespeare said it best, “Expectation is the root of heartache”. Unmet expectations often lead to the full range of negative emotions such as fear, anger, disappointment, jealousy, annoyance, bitterness, resentment, envy, and insecurities. People become unhappy in dating because they expect and assume others to love and treat them the same way they would without clearly communicating their needs. When getting to know someone, get to know how they both show and receive love. If you haven’t read the 5 Love Languages, I highly recommend reading it. Each language has a different way of expressing love. When you learn your partner's primary love language, especially your own, will help create a stronger bond in your relationship. Below are the 5 Love Languages:

• Words of Affirmation

• Quality Time

• Physical Touch

• Acts of Service

• Receiving Gifts

invest in those who invest in you

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Don’t invest in a person based on how much you like or love them. Invest in a person who also invests in you. Someone can like or love you with all of their feelings but may not be able to express their emotions properly through communication or action. I get it. We tend to like those who play hard to get because we think that is a high value individual, which may or not not be true. Either way, over investing in someone who hasn’t invested back in you is definitely a recipe for heartbreak.

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“Your emotional return of investment is just not enough. ”

— Aura Lee Waters

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Think of dating and relationships as a teeter totter from your old childhood playground. When each of you get on and invest equal effort into the beam, you will achieve balance. The is the goal in all relationships. When one person exerts more energy than the other, then the balance is off. Meet people where they are at with equal investment. Equal effort equates to more healthy and balanced relationships.

sometimes love isn’t enough

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A tough reality is that two people can be completely in love with each other but still not be compatible together. A healthy and balanced relationship not only requires love but also a lot of forgiveness, patience, space, support, trust, and respect. Compatibility is the strongest essence of a pure loving relationship. This includes happiness, kindness, peace, joy, laughter, and mutual understanding from both parties. When you choose to create a bond with someone, it’s important that your core values also align and match up with theirs. Get to know how your person of interest handles conflict, how they communicate their needs, what they’re like on their bad days, how they handle money, etc. Knowing these qualities are extremely important before moving forward and investing more of your heart. This is why I say that love is easy but making an actual relationship work long term takes a lot of energy and hard work. Make sure you find the right person who will put in the work with you and who isn’t there for the relationship benefits only. This is why it’s crucial to not act like a husband or wife to someone you’re not married or seriously committed to.

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“Love is easy, relationships take work.”

— Jennifer Joy Patrishkoff

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Relationships always start off with a period of idealization, infatuation, and romanticism but this fades away over time as we get to know people especially since people default back to their comfort zones. This is a normal and natural progression of a long term relationship. So how do you steer clear of those who are only interested in the benefits of a relationship? Keep reading. The next tip is extremely important.

raw and real communication

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Real talk. The biggest relationship killer is when games are played and feelings are hidden. Be honest, up front, and direct with what you want out of a relationship. Tell people, “For this to work for me, this is what I need.” If you’re not interested in anything serious, then say it. Don’t lead someone on just so you can get the sexual benefits of a relationship. You can’t expect someone to read your mind and give you exactly what it is that you want. When you do this, you give away your power and put your happiness into the hands of others. If you have specific needs, then state them otherwise you will become miserable anytime they are not met.

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“A little communication goes a long way. If you’re busy, say it. If you’re upset, express it. If you’re running late, let people know. If you don’t want to do something, be straigtforward. If you’re unsure, ask. It’s so simple but so important. ”

— The Minds Journal

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I know it can be scary to put yourself and your truth out on the line but isn’t it even more scary to waste time and energy on someone who cannot meet your basic needs and standards? My married friend always asks me if the people I’m talking to are single. She reminds me that because someone is flirting with you or taking you out on dates doesn’t mean there isn’t anyone else in the picture.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. This helps you to avoid wasting time. Learn more about who people really are before you invest more of your time with them. If you don’t ask, then you’ll never know and if you always have to second guess, decode, constantly consult your friends for advice on how to figure out how someone feels about you, chances are that you do not have healthy communication with them.

If you ever find yourself in a disagreement with the wrong partner, this will always turn into an argument, but a disagreement with a divine partner will turn into a conversation, which leads to changed behavior or a solution. When communicating with your partner, always lead with love instead of ego or the need to always be right. Relationships require a lot of compromising.

be with someone who you don’t want to change,

at all

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We all want other people around us to change to make us feel comfortable but this is not what true love is. True love is loving without condition and loving the other person exactly as they are with all of their flaws, bad habits, and emotional traumas. The only way that a relationship will work out long term is if you have fallen in love with who they are right now, not the potential of what they could be.

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“A healthy relationship is based on two principles. First, appreciate your similarities and second, respect your differences.”

— Raw Vegan Ginger

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The problem many of us face is that we start off our relationships banking on another person’s potential instead of their current actuality so intern we end up fantasizing or idealizing the other person. Remember, you are not a rehabilitation center for poorly raised people. It is not your job to fix, parent, raise, or change someone. You want a partner, not a project. I find that when I accept myself completely, I tend to accept others completely as they are too. There’s no need to put someone on a pedestal or idealize them the way you want them to be. Love people as they are and you will start to find more love around you.

you are what you attract

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Everyone is always trying to find the right person but very few are trying to be the right person. Dr. Wayne Dyer taught that “you don’t get what you want, you get what you are.” That is the quickest way to manifest love and all of your desires in life. Don’t fall into love either, rise into it and become it. Everyone puts a lot of time and effort into finding the right partner, but what needs to be done first is to be the right partner first. Don’t expect to attract your ideal companion without matching up with the exact qualities you are looking for. I recommend creating a list of your ideal partner and then checking to see where you show up on that list. You may have some things to work on before the right person comes into your life.

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“Perhaps the biggest mistake I’ve made in the past was that I believed love was about finding the right person. Don’t look for the person you want to spend your life with. Become the person you want to spend your life with. ”

— Neil Strauss

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Always find love within in yourself first. If you don’t find a way to love yourself properly, then you will more than likely have problems loving someone else. We have to experience it ourselves first then overflow with love so we can share it with others. Don’t forget to fall in love with life itself. This is how you will attract the right people and experiences into your life. Below are a few books that I recommend to read if you want to get into the right space prior to attracting love.

Mastery of Love

Calling In The One

comparison is the theif of joy

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Do not get in the habit of comparing yourself or your relationship with other people and other relationships, especially online. Social media is not real life simply because people only post the highlight reels of their life. We are all a little crazy so there is no competition on who lives a better life. Every single person on this planet is wonderfully unique and beautiful so there really is no comparison. People tend to fear commitment because they think there may be something better out there. The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it only becomes greener when you water it. When you focus on others’ “grass”, you neglect the care of your own. The only way to grow is to tend and care for yourself and your relationship so don’t bring in your old fears from your prior relationships into your new ones. You have to let those go. Fear does not belong in healthy, loving relationships.

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“The fastest way to kill something special is to compare it to something else. ”

— Unknown

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If you’re trying to start something new with someone, then leave both your past and your exes behind in the past where they belong. Comparing your own relationship to another or a romantic ideal will make you feel like your relationship is coming up short. Nobody can become an “ideal” because it doesn't exist, it only exists in someone’s mind, which is created through expectations and we already know that all expectation lead to disappointment. Stop comparing what you don’t have and start appreciating what you do have.

love is always a choice

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Love is not only a feeling that we hold inside, but an actual commitment of love through action. After time passes, the butterflies and newness of a relationship can start to fade after you’ve been together for many years. This is the natural progression of a relationship yet people tend to quit when this infatuation and idealization period is over. This is where true love is tested and we need to choose it everyday when we are in a relationship with someone.

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“Relationships won’t heal you and being single won’t kill you. ”

— Unknown

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Relationships are not always about the other person, they are essentially about ourselves relating to others while supporting them to become the best version of themselves. If you find yourself single and searching for a life partner, then take advantage of the time you have to yourself and focus on your own personal growth so you can become better and attract better. I will leave you with this video (above) from my favorite lightworker, Mooji.

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“Never go in search of love, go in search of life, and life will find you the love you seek.”

— Atticus

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The Greatest Wealth is your Health

health is wealth

What is health? To me, health is the absence of dis-ease, illness, injury, pain, inflammation, weakness, anger, fear, or worry. True health is waking up and feeling happy, energetic, full of gratitude, and most importantly, love. If you are not attuned to the vibration of love, then you cannot experience your full potential. True health is our God-given birthright. We all deserve to be healthy and thriving not only physically but also emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Follow the recommendations below to make sure you are living a healthy life.

nutrition

Focus your diet on fresh, whole foods grown from the Earth: fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, alkaline whole grains, sprouted legumes, and seaweeds. Cut out or limit your intake of high fat animal products as much as you can. Learn more about the health benefits of a vegan diet. Choose fresh, ripe, whole, organic, non-GMO foods and do your very best to support your local farmer’s market. Grow a garden and pick fresh herbs. It’s ok if you can’t follow all of these guidelines perfectly, just do your best and give yourself credit for trying. Drink plenty of purified water, at least 2 liters minimum a day and 3 to 4 liters the more you exercise and sweat. If you need help with any specific diet or nutrition goals, feel free to contact me for a health and nutritional assessment.

physical activity

Always move your body everyday and get a minimum of 30-45 minutes of exercise each day to get your lymphatic system pumping. Sweating is always a plus too! You want to aim for both aerobic and anaerobic activities throughout the week. Aerobic exercises include running, walking, hiking, cycling, and swimming and anaerobic exercises include lifting weights, resistance bands, and body weight exercises. If you don’t keep moving your body, then you you may become slower, weaker, and stagnant. Like they always say, move it, or lose it!

stress reduction

Being able to reduce and control stress will help you live a long and healthy life. You will be able to control your emotions and heal much quicker when you have mastery over your thoughts and emotions. Try to implement meditation, deep breathing exercises, yoga, gratitude lists, and visualization into your morning and/or night time routine. Sleep is the most beneficial stress reducing activity of all so be sure to get at least 8 hours of sleep each night; more if you feel more stressed. Rest is the body’s way of repairing itself. If you’re having trouble relaxing or letting go of fear or worry, try some of my affirmations.

social connections

Spending time with family and friends is extremely important for a healthy life. Healthy relationships are crucial for emotional, physical, and mental wellbeing. Surround yourself with people who uplift and motivate you in a positive way. Unhealthy relationships that are mentally, physically, or emotionally abusive may cause unwanted stress in your life and can leave you vulnerable to illness. Cut these people out of your life and make room for those who know how to love you correctly and you will become much happier and, in turn, healthier.

mental health

Your mental health is defined as your state of well being, emotionally, psychologically, and socially. Taking care of yourself by following the above recommendations will automatically help to improve your mental health function which may help you to realize your full potential, cope with stress, help with work productively, increase creativity, and make meaningful contributions to your community. The healthier you are, the easier it will be to manifest whatever it is that you truly want out of your life. If you feel unbalanced in any of these areas, please reach out to me and we can work on getting you back to balance together.

Consistency > Perfection

perfectionism is impossible

If you want to be successful in your life, then learn how to be consistent. Consistent with your actions, consistent with your time, and most importantly, consistent with yourself. The definition of consistency is adhering principles that you set by yourself and hold firmly to them. If you can learn how to apply this throughout your daily life, then you can achieve anything. Too often, perfection becomes the enemy of good or progress. Perfection becomes more important than making progress in the first place. There have been so many times I’ve given up on something because I wasn’t able to do well or as often as I’d like, so I just gave up. This is not how you accomplish a task or goal.

By starting with a small and even insignificant action will always better than not starting at all. The smallest action in the right direction, especially when doing it becomes a habit, is incredibly powerful. The tiniest step in the right direction is better than doing nothing at all. When done consistently, it can move mountains.

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“You’re never ready for what you have to do. You just do it. That what makes you ready.
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— Flora Rheta Schreiber

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Don’t wait for the perfect time to do something. Don’t stop & start over because you messed up, or you don’t think you’re ready, or you don’t have the time, the money, the resources. There will never be a better time than now. No one cares if you cheated at your diet for one da or if you only start out writing ten words a day in the novel that’s been inside you for a decade.

The secret is getting started

Don’t focus on going 0 to 100. Focus on going 0 to 10, then 10 to 20, then 20 to 30, and so on until you get to 100. Build sustainable habits through progression.

• Stretching for 1 minute is better than not stretching at all.

• Meditating for 2 minutes is better than not meditating at all.

• Reading 3 pages of a book is better than not reading at all.

• Practicing a skill for 4 minutes a day is better than not practicing at all.

• Walking for 5 minutes a day is better than not walking at all.

• Cleaning one room is better than not cleaning at all.

• Eating non organic fruits or vegetables is better than not eating any fruits and vegetables at all.

You get the idea. Even the smallest actions will compound and add up over time. This is how you achieve your goals, by getting started and doing a little bit everyday. Start small and slow. Put a timer on your phone for a few minutes and just get started. This helps to get you started and even gain momentum.

Slow and steady wins the race

One of the main reasons why people don’t have what they want is because they are not consistent with the actions required to achieve their goals. It’s easy to set goals or draw out a plan to get there. The toughest part comes when you need to execute your plan through actdion and you don’t feel like doing it. Newsflash, you will never feel like doing somehitng and if you wait, then you’ll be waiting forever. Mel Robbins says “motivation is garbage" because we assume that we need to feel ready in order to change something or get started. Newsflash, you’re going to feel like it. It’s just a delay mechanism or procrastination. Do something over and over until it becomes a part of who you are. You get in life what you have the courage to commit to.

Reveal it to Heal it

to heal it, you must reveal it

If you are going through something right now or working on healing something within your physical, emotional, or spiritual body, please know that the first step in healing anything is becoming aware of what is holding you back. Whether that may be specific foods, people, a job, or your environment, you truly cannot heal any form of weakness that does not want be revealed. I know this can be a scary process. I went through it many times, and will continue to go through it as I evolve and grow throughout my life. Humans find comfort in familiarity, even if the familiar is toxic to us, so find the courage to shed light on every single thing that is holding you back. Once you acknowledge what it is that you work so hard to hide, it has no where else to go.

What if the only way to heal your life was to not add things, but let go of them? By releasing old toxic mental and emotional patterns, we make space for new positive, healing, and loving patterns to emerge. Your worst fears are only hidden in your imagination. Most of them will never come true anyway. You cannot suffer in the past or the future because it does not exist, only the present moment, your memory, and your imagination exist. Use your mind to to believe that you can heal. Try these “what if” affirmations anytime you feel stuck or feed into fear or self doubt:

• What if I can heal my body, mind, and my entire life?

• What if I start loving myself every single day?

• What if everything I want comes true for me this year?

I want whoever is reading this to know that you have full control over your life and your healing. Do not allow a person or diagnosis to keep you stuck or limited in your thinking. Get clear on exactly what it is that you want out of this life and remove anything or anyone from your life that does not support it. This includes negative thought patterns as well. If you are going to think a negative thought, why not balance it out with a positive one? It only seems fair to level out the playing field. Duality is important. It gives us perspective and brings us back to a neural more balanced state. I understand that healing is not going to be easy as I too have suffered. Healing is never what we think it will look like.

Just know that it’s ok to feel lost, broken, confused, and hopeless at times in your life. You are not alone. Just don’t stay there. Honor those thoughts and emotions then work to release and transmute them. Below is one of my favorite frequencies that I put on before meditation or rest to change my state. You can keep this on while you sleep or as you go about your day. This tone has been known to repair DNA and heal our bodies. Results may vary because well, your life is completely up to you. What you think about yourself and the world ultimately becomes true for you. Consider the Self Fulfilling Prophecy.

I know that you can get through whatever you are experiencing because all of this temporary. Appreciate when life is good. Reflect when life is difficult. There is always a lesson to be learned and a blessing to be received. Look for it. Work on revealing your weaknesses and surrender to the belief that... You can heal. I believe in you.

Be Yourself

be yourself

Keep it raw and real with yourself and the world. So many of us are hiding behind a mask trying so hard to be perfect, trying so hard to be liked and accepted by others when we don't even like or accept ourselves. Life will eventually become exhausting when you create an "image" of yourself online and then work day and night to try and keep up with it especially if you are addicted to the validation. This is no one else's fault but yours. Stop comparing yourself to people online who you will never meet in real life. You are comparing yourself to someone who's full time job is to make you think they have their life together. Newsflash: they don't! No one does no matter how good they are at marketing their life to you.

Social media is not even real. Pictures, videos and captions are not a proper representation of someone's life even if they have an inspiring message to tell. Remember, people don't share their struggles, they tend to share their highlights and accomplishments and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s up to you to not make assumptions about a person by what they choose to post. People are good at hiding and end up hiding their entire lives.

I am here to remind you that it's ok to have a bad day, week, month or even year. It's ok to be angry or upset about something. It's ok to disagree with someone. It's ok to not do what everyone else is doing. It's ok to make mistakes (just own up to them). It's ok to take off your mask. Please, take it off. You will set yourself free and will inspire others to do the same. By keeping your mask on, you encourage others to keep their's on as well and contribute to the same repetitive cycle of faking perfection instead of just being yourself.

Energy is Currency

How much are you worth? 

We introduce ourselves before even opening up our own mouths. Many of us think we can hide things from others but when someone is sensitive to the emotions or “energies” of others, they will easily be able to pick up on any inconsistencies. We forget that everything is energy and we are not just our physical body but the “force” behind it. This “force” is not only responsible for your body’s processes but most importantly, your thoughts. The thoughts you think will ultimately determine the life you live. When you pay attention to something, you are essentially “buying” into an experience so be very careful with what you consume not only through food or drink but what holds your attention. What you place your attention (or energy) on is ultimately an investment in your future so be sure you choose carefully what is worth a good return. Treat your time (energy) with as much care as you would your finances or loved ones. It is your most valuable asset.

You Are Life

"You are Life passing through your body, passing through your mind, passing through your soul. Once you find that out, not with logic, not with the intellect, but because you can feel that Life - you find out that you are the force that makes the flowers open and close, that makes the hummingbird fly from flower to flower. You find out that you are in every tree, and you are in every animal, vegetable, and rock. You are that force that moves the wind and breathes through your body. The whole universe is a living being that is moved by that force, and that is what you are."

“To become masters of love, we have to practice love. The art of relationship is also a whole mastery, and the only way to reach mastery is with practice.”

-Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship --Toltec Wisdom Book

Stop complaining

YOU'VE GOT IT MADE!

Did you know that nearly 1/2 of the world’s population (more than 3 billion people) live on less than $2.50 a day and more than 1.3 billion live in extreme poverty on less than $1.25 a day? I know there's a lot of us out there struggling right now with physical issues, mental disorders, relationship problems and maybe even money troubles... but if you’re reading this message on a smartphone or even a computer, then you are one of the lucky ones on earth! At this very moment, there are billions of people who would literally kill to be in your situation. People are walking marathons a day just to to be able to water and who really knows if its clean, uncontaminated, drinkable water. They would love to have your problems. We need to remember these people who live in dire situations and we need to do everything we can to help them before we complain that Starbucks got our drink order wrong.

Watching this documentary of three friends who chose to live on $1 dollar a day for 56 days in Guatemala drastically changed my perspective when it comes to what I have. This actually inspired me to live more minimally and in a tiny home. Its people like these guys who help give us perspective with how the rest of the world is living.

Living and working in southern California, I find myself at times surrounded by very wealthy people. Heck, compared to the majority of the world population, I'm wealthy! My point is that most of us do not realize how good we actually have it. We tend to forget how amazing this world is and how lucky we are to be alive at this very given moment, yet we’re on our smart phones judging away at each other and complaining about first world problems that the majority of the world would love to have.

SIGNS YOU’RE DOING WELL IN LIFE

You’re breathing

You have a roof over your head

You have clean water to drink

You have nutritious food to eat

You are wearing clothes

You care about others

So catch yourself the next time you complain or feel depressed about your problems or life. If we put all of our problems into a great big pile with others, I guarantee you’ll grab yours back. Think about how billions of other people are living on earth. Was it their fault for being born into such oppression? I feel that when we gain perspective of the world around us is when we realize how good we actually have it. So it’s time to stop complaining and start appreciating everything about your life. You have it far better than you realize.

Heal thy self

you can heal your life

How to heal? Take your health into your own hands! Don't leave it up to anyone else, it's not their responsibility. Like the wonderful Louise Hay said, "You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds… Claim and consciously use your power." You can heal and you will heal when you continue to make healthy choices with your thoughts and your actions. 

Effort

good vibes or goodbye

People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you through their actions. Pay little attention to what people say but closer attention to how they treat you. Learn to trust your intuition and the "vibes" you receive from others. Everything is energy in our world so focus on how you feel when you are around others. This will tell you everything you need to know.

Not everyone you love is meant to be the person you build a life with. This can be a hard pill to swallow for some. Just because you feel a strong, powerful connection with someone, doesn’t mean it’s a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Most connections today are built on fear. The fear of being rejected, the fear of being unloved, the fear of losing someone or the fear of committing to only one person for the rest of your life. It is only when we let go of fear we can love. Love cannot fear because love is the most powerful force in the world.

Progress over perfection

Keep on moving

You only fail when you stop trying so why not stick around and see what happens when you keep going? If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. If you can’t crawl, then ask for help. People love helping others especially when they see people trying. Don’t stay stuck in the same place. Keep making decisions, even if the decision is wrong. Regardless of the circumstance, you need to keep on moving my friend. You've got this!

Nutrition is Key

eat to thrive

It's easier to build wellness than to treat disease so shift your focus to the preventative side which of course includes healthy eating. The food you eat can and the drinks you consume can either promote healing you or slowly poison your body into dis-ease. There are only two sides of chemistry when it comes to the body: acid and alkaline. Choose the alkaline, healing side of chemistry. Like Hippocrates said, "Let medicine be thy food and food thy medicine."

PLANT BASED WHOLE FOOD

A plant based whole food diet is one of the best diets to follow and is the only diet that has been shown to halt and reverse life threatening conditions such as heart disease and diabetes. Vegetarians and vegan populations have much lower rates of heart diseases, high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity compared to populations who include animal proteins. Dr. Caldwell Esselstyn says that "some people think plant-based diet, whole foods diet is extreme. Half a million people a year will have their chests opened up and a vein taken from their leg and sewn onto their coronary artery. Some people would call that extreme." 

RAW LIVING FOOD

If you want to step up your nutrition game, incorporate more raw living foods into your diet. 

ASK FOR HELP

Changing your diet can seem overwhelming at times there is so much conflicting evidence out there. I say, only take advice from those who you truly resonate with and who you want to live like. Don’t take advice from someone you don’t admire or respect just because they are successful or have six pack abs. Follow those who are transparent with their lifestyle and who have shown consistent results over time. I am always here for

Have compassion

love thy self

Jack Kornfield said it best, “Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.” Think about it, if you don't love yourself properly, how can you properly love another human being? The most important relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. It’s wonderful to selflessly serve others, but when it comes at the expensive of self care or true happiness, then the work may be incomplete. We can achieve a peaceful world when each and everyone of us cultivates true compassion within our own hearts.

HOW TO CULTIVATE SELF COMPASSION

By Louise Hay

• Stop criticizing yourself: You are doing the best you can, self criticism doesn't help. You can find plenty of people out in the world to criticize you, don't be one of them.

• Forgive yourself: Let the past go. Holding on to it only keeps you stuck and makes

• Connect with your inner child: Parent, support and care for yourself.

• Don't scare yourself: Choose more positive, peaceful, hopeful and optimistic thoughts.

• Accept yourself now: Love your negatives and find new positive ways to fulfill those needs.

• Be mindful with yourself

• Let go of expectations and a perfectionist mindset

• Work with a therapist or coach

• Remember, we are all in this together!

• Love yourself now: Don't wait until you have the perfect body, job or partner, do it now as best as you possibly can, like you life depended on it, because it does!

Smile :)

SPREAD THE LOVE

When you smile you start to feel better immediately. When you help someone else smile, the power of the smile intensifies and then smiling becomes even more contagious. Scientists have found that smiling on purpose can help people feel better. Just the simple act of putting a smile on your face can lead you to feel actual happiness, joy, or amusement. Smiling on purpose changes brain chemistry. Even when you don't feel like smiling, try it out! You'll notice something happen, you start to get happy.

Benefits of smiling include:

• Mood lifter

• Lowered blood pressure

• Stress relief

• Improved relationships

• Pain relief

• Stronger immune function

• Longer life

So what are you waiting for... Smile at everyone you come into contact with and see what happens :)

Let it be

DON'T PICK AT YOUR WOUNDS

We all are walking around with unhealed emotional wounds so please be gentle with yourself and others. People don't always show or say when they're in pain. We've been conditioned to desensitize ourselves and be strong on the outside while many of us are hurting on the inside. We need to be ok with not being ok. If you are coming from a place of pain, whether physically or emotionally, you need to stop touching your wounds. Give your body the opportunity to properly heal. There always comes a time when we need to take off the band aid and let our wound breathe and get sunshine. Let it scab over and fall off naturally even when you want to pick it off, it will only take longer to heal. Stop revisiting the pain in your thoughts and in your heart and let it go. If you cannot let it go then just let it be. The more we think about something, the more power we give it. Don't give your power away. You can heal your life. Claim your power and start the healing process.

Positive self talk

don't take anything personally

Like Don Miguel Ruiz says, " Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world." This is one of my favorite books of all time, The Four Agreements. If you haven't read it, get it! What you think about yourself will ALWAYS be more important than what others think since these people do not live your life or truly know your heart. There's a reason why there are celebrities and millionares who are insecure and unhappy. No matter how many people love you, if you don't love or approve of yourself then you will never be happy. When you take the time to work on yourself and finally accept the wonderful and unique being you are, you will finally find true happiness within!

True beauty

life is beautiful

Stop for a moment and take a look at the world around you. Notice what you see. Forget about how you think it should look and just be present. Isn't it beautiful? Remember, beauty isn't about having certain atheistics or qualities, it's about being yourself! No one is like you. No two snowflakes are even the same. Each have unique characteristics that are literally 1 in 1 trillion. Whether you see it or not, you are beautiful so why not look for the beauty in everything you see?

Focus

focus = feeling

The more you think about something, the more power you give it and more power it will have over your life. What you focus on WILL command your energy – your emotional energy, your thinking energy and your physical energy.  You may not always be conscious of it so just be aware of this universal truth. Everything you have now you once thought up in your mind. Whether its a job, a partner, an item of clothing or a piece of jewelry, you once thought about it, attracted it into your life and ultimately received it. Now the same goes for your thoughts of negativity and fear. The more you think about what you don’t want to happen including your fear of the unknown, the more it will take control over your life and the more it may show up in your life. Imagine if each and everyone of us nurtured each other to help us grow into our greatest self? How amazing our world would be!

Real food

keep it raw and real

Keep it simple! That is all.